Loss Advisors™/ Loss Doulas® can help you-

Soon after hearing the news

In the days when you are home 
Whether by phone, email, or in person (when possible), they can:

  • Contact you soon after you learn of the loss
  • Listen and affirm your feelings 
  • Help slow things down in nonemergency situations so you can begin to prepare yourself and your family
  • Discuss what is likely to happen in the hours/days ahead laying out your rights, decisions, options and the 'why' behind the importance of welcoming your baby into your family.  Yes, even in death.
  • Teach/Advise you about how to make the most of your time with your baby.
  • Share stories, ideas, options, resources, and suggestions about the issues you face prior to and during the birth and burial/cremation of your baby. They may include such issues as: involving other children, couple communication, family involvement, parents' rights, disposition of your baby's body, peers support, finding people and resources to help you.
  • Help you be your own advocate and/or be a navigator/advocate for you if needed.
  • Brainstorm ways to involve your family so they can meet your baby and have shared stories and experiences.
  • Give you permission to BE your child's parent 'to the max' making sure you get to do as many parenting tasks as possible...the memories that will bring comfort over time.
  • Share stories that help you know you are not alone and what others have done, giving you ideas and permission to create your own path
  • Help you create a Birth Vision or Birth Plan that  can help you gain some control and make plans for the *procedure/birth, meeting your baby, involving family, goodbye options and more
  • Be present if possible and if you wish, prior to, during, and/or after the birth of your baby.
  • Assist you with funeral/memorial service planning and writing an obituary.
  • Locate and share resources with you - local and beyond.  From books, clothing such as dresses made out of wedding gowns, memory items, other parents, groups, social media, organizations and more.
  • Assist you with issues as they come up  such as: going back to work (or not), alerting and preparing your workplace for your return, children's questions about their silbling and this loss, what grief and mourning are and ideas on how to navigate this unfamiliar journey, and more...
Whether by phone, email, or in person (when possible) they can

  • Help you with a discharge planning meeting prior to leaving the hospital (so you have a sense of what happened and where you go from there)
  • Listen and affirm your feelings
  • Offer guidance on what might be ahead
  • Help you better understand grief and loss - the normalcy of it and thoughts on when and how to seek help
  • Give you resources for support groups, online chats, social media options 
  • Offer help with the responses from other people
  • Support you with postpartum issues
  • Help with preparation for going back to work, if desired
  • Discuss couple communication
  • Share ideas on how to interact and support siblings
  • Talk about and offer resources for guidance on subsequent pregnancies
  • Help you be your own advocate
  • Be a support to you in a subsequent pregnancy
                  * Loss Advisors/Loss Doulas do not give medical advice, though they may share stories that involve medical components. It is up to you to speak with your medical caregiver and then make your own decisions. 

We Believe


  • Every child is precious, no matter their size or length of gestation.
  • Pregnancy and infant loss requires supportive guidance from well-trained individuals that understand the magnitude of pregnancy and infant loss.
  • Families should have resources available to them to make informed decisions as they bring their child into the world.
  • Parents deserve sensitivity, compassion and appropriate information from the moment they are given bad news.
  • Parents need proper preparation and support when they are told their baby has died (whether in miscarriage, stillbirth or other early infant death). 
  • Parents should be cared for in a respectful and supportive environment when saying Hello and Goodbye to their precious baby. 
  • Parents should be prepared well before being admitted to, or leaving, the hospital.
  • Parents need to be given appropriate and well-researched ongoing support resources.
  • Loss Advisors/Loss Doulas offer a unique perspective to the hospital care-giving team...one that allows them to give emotional and decision making help in partnership with the clinical care provided by the healthcare team while others may only offer the necessary medical care.
  • Peer support parents should be made available to newly bereaved parents as soon as possible and for ongoing support.
  • The parents workplace should be welcoming and managers and colleagues should be aware and understand how to help.